Journey with nobody………………………………….

It is a tale of a girl who was born to a middle class parents. She had no siblings and was alone always. Life did not show mercy on her. She had no cousins, friends to play with. She grew up with bitterness and the feeling of being all alone.


Definitely, one can expect what thoughts would run in the mind of any person who is in this situation. She was an introvert, people bullied her, and victim of abuse when she was a child. Can you imagine the trauma that she underwent.


This is common, most of them who under face these situations never disclose these incidents. They grow with a negative mind, lock themselves in a nutshell and before submissive in nature.


Even when she grew as a young lady, she had no friends to hang out with, she would cry alone and not letting her parents know what she was dealing with. People would make use of her being timid and her helplessness. But she was enduring all this. She would ask the lord, why me? Why don’t I have anyone? But never received an answer.


Time passed by she settled she married, but even in her married life did not find peace, she was dominated, abused, and not respected. Although she wanted to do the best for her family. With time she decided to break the marriage and live alone. Her struggle was immense, with no money or job she walked out of the house.

She had her parents support regained the courage and began her new life. being a timid person she struggled to fit into the world that is filled with different people. Not knowing how to cope, she would weep and pray for courage. As we know, time is a healer. She began to move on and unskilled her knowledge and skills. Took up a job and now is happy with what God has blessed her. Even now she has no best friends she is happy with her new husband and family.


I’m sure this is not a new story that you are reading, many of you must have faced similar situation. But what I would like to share is that we as human beings face different situations in our lives. We are lucky if we have someone to guide us, motivate us, and to stand by us. Think of the those who don’t have anyone, they still fight alone.
What I would like to say to all my readers out there. It’s true we can’t do anything much for such people. But we can definitely include them in our prayers.


Definitely, one can expect what thoughts would run in the mind of any person who is in this situation. She was an introvert, people bullied her, she was victim of abuse when she was a child. Can you imagine the trauma that she underwent.
This is common, most of them who under face these situations never disclose these incidents. They grow with a negative mind, lock themselves in a nutshell and before submissive in nature.


Even when she grew as a young lady, she had no friends to hang out with, she would cry alone and not letting her parents know what she was dealing with. People would make use of her being timid and her helplessness. But she was enduring all this. She would ask the lord, why me? Why don’t I have anyone? But never received an answer.

Time passed she settled in her life, but even in her married life did not find peace, she was dominated, abused, and not respected. Although she wanted to do the best for her family. With time she decided to break the marriage and live alone. Her struggle was immense, with no money or job she walked out of the house. She regained the courage and began her new life with her parents support. She faced a lot of challenges during this time. Figuring out a way to cope up, at times she would weep and pray for courage.

As we all know, time is a healer. She began to move on and unskilled her knowledge and skills. Took up a job and now is happy with what God has blessed her. Even now she has no best friends she is happy with her new husband and family.


I’m sure this is not a new story that you are reading, many of you must have faced similar situation. But what I would like to share is that we as human beings face different situations in our lives. We are lucky if we have someone to guide us, motivate us, and to stand by us. Think of the those who don’t have anyone, they still fight alone.
What I would like to say to all my readers out there. It’s true we can’t do anything much for such people. But we can definitely include them in our prayers.

Remember, your life is precious and you need to be strong and focused to fight all odds and succeed in life. Time once gone never comes back so get up now, and take an oath that you will keep yourself happy and take care.

Signing off
Hema Aloysius

Why is it so difficult to make a decision?

Have you ever been in this situation?

Yes, you have and might still be facing this issue.

Why is that we can’t decide and stick on to our decision?

Mentally we have prepared and have made the decision, but we don’t have the confidence or the courage to reveal it. We try to hide those decisions and struggle with conflicts within us that ruin our mental peace and happiness.

We are unable to share our decisions be it professional life, friendship, relationship or any where? It is tough. We begin to assume and imagine all the possible results that could occur if the decision is shared to the concerned person.

Fear of the consequences is always a barrier.

We begin to worry about the other person’s reactions, words, and their opinion. Why should bring these thoughts in our minds. I mean you have all the rights to voice out your opinion and be firm at your decision.

At work, we hesitate to share our thoughts, opinions or even critical decisions that we have made decision to move on. Fear of being fired, fear of guilt, or you tend to feel what will your boss think or say. Many a time we bear all the blame and harsh words even when we are not at fault. Am I right?

But we don’t have to do that, I’ve been doing that, there was a time when my colleagues used to call me a corporate slave/corporate doormat. One of my colleague advised me not be so submissive to everything that is being told by mt managers or whom so ever it was. We need to take a stand, be assertive and learn to voice out your opinion. In this process we need to make sure to be humble, soft spoken and mind your sentence. It took a lot of time to do this and I’m still struggling.

In case you are facing a similar situation or you have been like this, change now. You have all the rights as an employee. You need to focus only on meeting your targets and following the compliance and policies of the organization. Respect is important at work and not fear. Remember to …………

So take all the courage to share your concerns at work and your decisions without holding yourself. You will definitely get solution and be happy with your decision.

Never reveal your personal challenges and financial crisis that will make you weak in taking decisions, because you would feel that in case you voice your opinion, then you might lose the job and may not be able to cope with the crisis. Never be emotional with your work and make decisions. You need to respect your job, take ownership, love your work and be happy with what benefits it provides you. It is essential to keep all your feelings aside and work and think practically.

With family, relationship and friends, we have emotional connection, therefore, you need to be cautious when you make a decision. Because it could damage the bond that you have with that person. Therefore, see all the pros and cons and then make a decision which will be a win win situation. You can’t afford to lose these connections, they are permanent and will always stand by you in all odds.

Tips to consider while making a decision:

  1. Avoid making decisions emotionally or with ego.
  2. Trust your intuition
  3. Don’t fear the consequences.
  4. Seek Advice
  5. Write down the pros and cons of your decision.
  6. Don’t change your decision once you have made up your mind.

I hope you liked this article and believe me it is true that we all face similar situations. Many have changed with experience and some still struggle.

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Thank you for your valuable time!

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